Archive for April, 2012

Your Friends Meeting My Friends

Wednesday, April 25th, 2012

In one of the Notorious B.I.G. classic songs “Big Poppa” – P. Diddy (aka Puff Daddy at the time) said, “Tell your friends to get with my friends – we can be friends – we can do this every weekend.”

Male/Female, White/Black/Asian/Hispanic, we all have been there. You meet someone while out with friends and then the question comes up, “Man/Girl she/he is bad, I know she/he has some friends!” And as always we go to the one we met and ask them to set up a meeting between your friends and his/her friends!

9 times out of 10 this ends in disaster! Lol. This type of hook up, date, relationship, rarely works out, so please stop asking to meet a FRIENDS FRIEND! Find your own date. THOUGHTS???

I’m Involved With Two Men And I’m Confused!!!

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

So I receive another EXTREMELY interesting email from a female the other day, who is having a problem choosing between 2 men that she is currently dating. One has 90% of the qualities she is looking for and the other has only 80%. To me this sounds like a good problem to have until I press further for what the lacking 10%/20% actually consisted of!!!

FEMALE: Ok Bobby here is one for you, I can’t post it on my page but if you think the people will respond you can, but names have to be disclosed. It’s me.

MAN #1 – I am in love with someone that loves me but he is in a different kind of situation.

MAN #2 – Then there’s someone who loves me and worships the ground I walk on but I don’t love him. He buys me things, he is concerned for me and has 80% of what matters the most to a woman. The problem is that I’m independent, make my own money, and do for myself.

I was married to one man half of my life and now I feel like I can choose what I want before making a choice.

MAN #1 – The one that I love has 90% and I can deal with the lacking 10%, but the situation is sticky. Even though he has 12 of the things that I want in a man on my list of 14 things! LOL.

MAN #2 – The other 20% that he doesn’t have is a big deal to me!

BOBBY: Oh damn…. LOL…. OK you have to give me a little more…. What are the 80%/90% traits that you like? What is the 10%/20% that they are lacking?? You are hiding something! LOL.

FEMALE:
MALE #1 – Is lacking that he is in a sticky situation and we are both passionately in love to where we feel it in our gut.
MALE #2 – He is short, a mama’s boy, cooks, runs my bath water, lights candles, plays soft music for me and he has been alone too long! I think him doing all of this bothers me as I want to do some of the cooking, run my own water and take baths alone sometimes.

BOBBY: Let me guess, MALE #1 is an animal in the bed?

FEMALE: As far as sex…… WELL….. MALE #2 can but….. BUT MALE #1!!!! “OH MY GOD!!!”……….. Bobby it’s so much more exciting, when PASSION/TUSSLING ARE INVOLVED AND MANLINESS IS THERE AS WELL!!!…. LOL………. SOOOOOO……. What do you suggest???

BOBBY: MALE #1 is married isn’t he?

FEMALE: Bobby??????????????????????? I gave you most of the meat why, why, why???

BOBBY: I need the meat and the potatoes!!!!

FEMALE: Ok yes MALE #1 is married, but 10 years of lies and he is miserable. But luckily in a month he will be facing an empty nest with the children and that’s why he stayed, because of the children. I know it’s wrong Bobby but I love him, again I know it’s wrong. MALE #2 isn’t married but he has been twice and I just don’t love him, even in all he does, it’s just not there.

Something tells me to walk away from MALE #1, and I have tried (Not answer the phone, Changed my phone #, Moved). Something tells me that I know love different from lust or infatuation when you’re older and the ingredients say love. I know it’s wrong for a woman to love another woman’s husband, and the word says “What God put together let no man tear asunder.” Did they tear it apart? I don’t want to feel like “I did” for the rest of my life.
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So what do you think my friend should do??? SUGGESTIONS??? THOUGHTS????

He Hired His Mistress!!!

Sunday, April 15th, 2012

I’m sure by now that you all have heard about the Head Football Coach who while riding his motorcycle with his mistress had an accident and now he has been fired from his multi-million dollar a year coaching gig. Well there’s a whole lot more to this story! 1st I will start with the fact that he is 50+ years old and married with 5 kids. He hired the 25 year old (former volleyball player at the school he coaches) mistress to work in the football department in a position where she would earn right at $56,000/ year. On top of that, he gave her $20,000 out of his own pocket as a GIFT in which she turned around and bought a vehicle in her 1st week on the job! Now she has been placed on leave pending further investigation!

OK OK you are probably saying, “Bobby Rouse, why are you surprised as this happens ALL THE TIME!” You know what, you are right! But the thing about this that bothers me is the fact that he gave her that job and there were probably people who applied that were ACTUALLY QUALIFIED!!! It amazes me how people in positions to hire are allowed to place UNQUALIFIED individuals in positions that they clearly cannot function in!!! He deserved to get fired for being STUPID!!!! For real COACH? You hire your mistress??? Really??? DUMB ASS!!!!

READ THE ENTIRE STORY BELOW:

Petrino’s ex-mistress put on leave at Arkansas
By KURT VOIGT | The Associated Press – Fri, Apr 13, 2012 4:00 PM EDT.. .

FAYETTEVILLE, Ark. (AP) Arkansas put the former mistress of Bobby Petrino on paid leave Friday and disclosed that she used a $20,000 ”gift” from the disgraced former coach to buy a car in her first week on the job.

University spokesman Steve Voorhies said Jessica Dorrell, a 25-year-old football department employee, had been placed on leave but declined further comment, calling it a private personnel issue.

Dorrell, a former Arkansas volleyball player, was a Razorback Foundation fundraiser before she was hired as a student-athlete development coordinator by Petrino on March 28 at an annual salary of $55,735. She has not returned repeated calls seeking comment.

The move came as Petrino said he would not appeal his firing and seek any of the $18 million buyout that was part of his contract. His agent, Russ Campbell, sent an email to athletic director Jeff Long late Thursday saying Petrino had accepted ”responsibility for the events that led to the university’s decision to terminate his contract.”

”Coach Petrino and his family wish nothing but the best for both the Razorback football program and University of Arkansas,” Campbell wrote.

Petrino had the option to appeal as part of the seven-year contract he agreed to in December 2010. The contract was for more than $3.5 million annually and carried the $18 million mutual buyout clause in 2011 and 2012. The amount dropped over the life of the contract, falling to as little as $3.9 million in 2017.

Long said that Petrino was fired for cause, meaning the coach was not owed anything.

The 51-year-old Petrino was fired Tuesday for failing to disclose his relationship with Dorrell before she was hired, as required by conflict of interest rules at the school. The affair became public only after the two went for a motorcycle ride April 1 and skidded off the road, putting Petrino in the hospital and resulting in a police report that contained her identity.

Long has said the two were in a relationship for a ”significant” amount of time and phone records show they exchanged more than 4,300 text messages and nearly 300 phone calls over the past seven months, possibly including photo and video content.

The termination letter Long sent to Petrino was released by the school Friday and it had more specifics.

”(Y)ou deliberately failed to tell me that you had engaged in an extramarital affair with Ms. Dorrell over a period of several months leading up to your recommendation to hire her,” Long wrote. ”If you had been forthcoming with me about the true nature of your relationship, I would not have approved the hiring.”

Long also said Petrino ”admitting giving $20,000 cash to Ms. Dorrell as a ‘gift.’ Ms. Dorrell used the money to purchase a black Acura during the first week that she worked for the football program.

”Among other concerns relating to this ‘gift,’ you should have disclosed this fact to me … but you failed to do so,” Long wrote.

The athletic director ripped Petrino for ”poor judgment” and said that by lying to his boss and the public he had left the school with the task of ”restoring the reputation of our institution and our athletics programs.”

”I recognize that you are a very talented football coach,” Long wrote, ”but the university may not disregard your conduct or sacrifice its integrity, reputation and principles.”

As for Dorrell, it is unknown whether she will face the same fate.

In a March 20 letter Long sent to Dorrell offering her the job, he wrote that ”you should be aware that you will be held accountable for and must abide by University of Arkansas, Southeastern Conference and NCAA rules and regulations.”

The school, he added, ”expects integrity” and Dorrell was asked to comply with ”conflict of interest policies” among other things. The letter amounts to an ”understanding” that there are ”no agreements, whether written or oral, regarding your employment other than those contained in this letter.” The letter was signed by Dorrell.

A person familiar with the situation has told the AP that Dorrell had ”at one time” been engaged to another athletic department staffer, assistant strength and conditioning coach Josh Morgan. Voorhies said Morgan is still employed by Arkansas.

Story from Yahoo.com

She Accused Him Of Cheating, Now What?

Sunday, April 15th, 2012

I received a message in my FB inbox the other day from a female who I have known for some years. She is in a relationship with a guy that she is looking to “Jump the Broom” with, but they have all of a sudden, “Hit a Bump”. Follow our conversation below:

Female:
You and your wife seem to have a beautiful relationship, and we are both about the same age. I am thinking about getting married, however, we have hit a little bump. How do you keep your relationship healthy? This will be the second go round for me.

Bobby:
What’s the bump?

Female:
I kept accusing him of cheating, but he says he’s not and that he never will. However I accused him of it again last week and now he refuses to talk to me. He’s saying that he needs space to step back and clear his head before he says something that will damage our relationship

Bobby:
Oh Oh…. Honestly, I’m not sure if you can repair trust…. That’s a looonnngggg process…. Especially when you have no proof that he’s cheating….

Female:
I have no proof at all, so it’s best if I gave space. I’m getting older! I want to be and appear happy as you and your beautiful wife.

Bobby:
Wow girl that’s going to be tough though….. Not sure if you understand but that type of stuff really HURTS…. If he wasn’t cheating, he probably is or will start now…. Sorry to share that news with you….. How old are you now?

Female:
I’m 38 and he is 35. I hope he’s not cheating after 2 weeks.

Bobby:
Oh damn yall are almost the same age as us….. Ummmm girl you are in Atlanta and those woman can sense that he is hurting and see this is as a prime opportunity to “you know” MAKE HIM RELAX AND FEEEELLLL GOOOD!!! And trust that’s how it starts…. If you get him back, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT accuse him unless you walk in on him doing a chick!!!!

Female:
I will take that advice….

Now, maybe I was little hard on her but the truth is when you start accusing people of cheating without proof, you are opening up a can of worms that you may not be able to close! LEAVE YOUR FEEDBACK FOR HER……. THOUGHTS????