So I receive another EXTREMELY interesting email from a female the other day, who is having a problem choosing between 2 men that she is currently dating. One has 90% of the qualities she is looking for and the other has only 80%. To me this sounds like a good problem to have until I press further for what the lacking 10%/20% actually consisted of!!!
FEMALE: Ok Bobby here is one for you, I can’t post it on my page but if you think the people will respond you can, but names have to be disclosed. It’s me.
MAN #1 – I am in love with someone that loves me but he is in a different kind of situation.
MAN #2 – Then there’s someone who loves me and worships the ground I walk on but I don’t love him. He buys me things, he is concerned for me and has 80% of what matters the most to a woman. The problem is that I’m independent, make my own money, and do for myself.
I was married to one man half of my life and now I feel like I can choose what I want before making a choice.
MAN #1 – The one that I love has 90% and I can deal with the lacking 10%, but the situation is sticky. Even though he has 12 of the things that I want in a man on my list of 14 things! LOL.
MAN #2 – The other 20% that he doesn’t have is a big deal to me!
BOBBY: Oh damn…. LOL…. OK you have to give me a little more…. What are the 80%/90% traits that you like? What is the 10%/20% that they are lacking?? You are hiding something! LOL.
FEMALE:
MALE #1 – Is lacking that he is in a sticky situation and we are both passionately in love to where we feel it in our gut.
MALE #2 – He is short, a mama’s boy, cooks, runs my bath water, lights candles, plays soft music for me and he has been alone too long! I think him doing all of this bothers me as I want to do some of the cooking, run my own water and take baths alone sometimes.
BOBBY: Let me guess, MALE #1 is an animal in the bed?
FEMALE: As far as sex…… WELL….. MALE #2 can but….. BUT MALE #1!!!! “OH MY GOD!!!”……….. Bobby it’s so much more exciting, when PASSION/TUSSLING ARE INVOLVED AND MANLINESS IS THERE AS WELL!!!…. LOL………. SOOOOOO……. What do you suggest???
BOBBY: MALE #1 is married isn’t he?
FEMALE: Bobby??????????????????????? I gave you most of the meat why, why, why???
BOBBY: I need the meat and the potatoes!!!!
FEMALE: Ok yes MALE #1 is married, but 10 years of lies and he is miserable. But luckily in a month he will be facing an empty nest with the children and that’s why he stayed, because of the children. I know it’s wrong Bobby but I love him, again I know it’s wrong. MALE #2 isn’t married but he has been twice and I just don’t love him, even in all he does, it’s just not there.
Something tells me to walk away from MALE #1, and I have tried (Not answer the phone, Changed my phone #, Moved). Something tells me that I know love different from lust or infatuation when you’re older and the ingredients say love. I know it’s wrong for a woman to love another woman’s husband, and the word says “What God put together let no man tear asunder.” Did they tear it apart? I don’t want to feel like “I did” for the rest of my life.
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So what do you think my friend should do??? SUGGESTIONS??? THOUGHTS????
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