I received a message in my FB inbox the other day from a female who I have known for some years. She is in a relationship with a guy that she is looking to “Jump the Broom” with, but they have all of a sudden, “Hit a Bump”. Follow our conversation below:
Female:
You and your wife seem to have a beautiful relationship, and we are both about the same age. I am thinking about getting married, however, we have hit a little bump. How do you keep your relationship healthy? This will be the second go round for me.
Bobby:
What’s the bump?
Female:
I kept accusing him of cheating, but he says he’s not and that he never will. However I accused him of it again last week and now he refuses to talk to me. He’s saying that he needs space to step back and clear his head before he says something that will damage our relationship
Bobby:
Oh Oh…. Honestly, I’m not sure if you can repair trust…. That’s a looonnngggg process…. Especially when you have no proof that he’s cheating….
Female:
I have no proof at all, so it’s best if I gave space. I’m getting older! I want to be and appear happy as you and your beautiful wife.
Bobby:
Wow girl that’s going to be tough though….. Not sure if you understand but that type of stuff really HURTS…. If he wasn’t cheating, he probably is or will start now…. Sorry to share that news with you….. How old are you now?
Female:
I’m 38 and he is 35. I hope he’s not cheating after 2 weeks.
Bobby:
Oh damn yall are almost the same age as us….. Ummmm girl you are in Atlanta and those woman can sense that he is hurting and see this is as a prime opportunity to “you know” MAKE HIM RELAX AND FEEEELLLL GOOOD!!! And trust that’s how it starts…. If you get him back, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT accuse him unless you walk in on him doing a chick!!!!
Female:
I will take that advice….
Now, maybe I was little hard on her but the truth is when you start accusing people of cheating without proof, you are opening up a can of worms that you may not be able to close! LEAVE YOUR FEEDBACK FOR HER……. THOUGHTS????
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Men don’t like a insecure woman and expecting a man to cheat shows u don’t have the confidence that you can hold your own. If there is suspicion, check into it but people if someone is constantly being accused of something they didn’t do, they are eventually gonna commit the act since they carry the burden either way
If a person is going to have those type of suspicions…on more than one occasion, I would strongly suggest that they hold off on marriage. Marriage in and of itself can seem like work at times, but then to enter one with that kind of situation will handicap (golf term) from jump.
If she had no real reason to repeatedly accuse him, the relations is “toast.” He’s not going to continue forward under those conditions.
Ok Bobby Rouse, I agree with Tanya, if someone is constantly being accused of something, you are sowing the seed in their spirit to try it, since they are already carrying the burden, this is a good one, because woman with low self esteem do this often and when he finally says you know what I’m not going to deal with this for the rest of my life and he leaves then she wan’t to trust him. First of all NO you were not too hard on her… Some times that is what woman and men need someone to be honest with them and not sugar coat the issue. She is older than him and she is never really going to trust him because of that… SAD… But he’s probably gonnnnnnnnnnne………… and she made him leave… See once the trust is gone its gone and will it ever be 100 again NO…
She keeps looking at other people marriage and not putting enough effort into finding out what a marriage for her will need… No every person nor marriage is the same… Sad day for her she’s probably back on the market………….smh..