Posts Tagged ‘call off the marriage’

She Accused Him Of Cheating, Now What?

Sunday, April 15th, 2012

I received a message in my FB inbox the other day from a female who I have known for some years. She is in a relationship with a guy that she is looking to “Jump the Broom” with, but they have all of a sudden, “Hit a Bump”. Follow our conversation below:

Female:
You and your wife seem to have a beautiful relationship, and we are both about the same age. I am thinking about getting married, however, we have hit a little bump. How do you keep your relationship healthy? This will be the second go round for me.

Bobby:
What’s the bump?

Female:
I kept accusing him of cheating, but he says he’s not and that he never will. However I accused him of it again last week and now he refuses to talk to me. He’s saying that he needs space to step back and clear his head before he says something that will damage our relationship

Bobby:
Oh Oh…. Honestly, I’m not sure if you can repair trust…. That’s a looonnngggg process…. Especially when you have no proof that he’s cheating….

Female:
I have no proof at all, so it’s best if I gave space. I’m getting older! I want to be and appear happy as you and your beautiful wife.

Bobby:
Wow girl that’s going to be tough though….. Not sure if you understand but that type of stuff really HURTS…. If he wasn’t cheating, he probably is or will start now…. Sorry to share that news with you….. How old are you now?

Female:
I’m 38 and he is 35. I hope he’s not cheating after 2 weeks.

Bobby:
Oh damn yall are almost the same age as us….. Ummmm girl you are in Atlanta and those woman can sense that he is hurting and see this is as a prime opportunity to “you know” MAKE HIM RELAX AND FEEEELLLL GOOOD!!! And trust that’s how it starts…. If you get him back, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT accuse him unless you walk in on him doing a chick!!!!

Female:
I will take that advice….

Now, maybe I was little hard on her but the truth is when you start accusing people of cheating without proof, you are opening up a can of worms that you may not be able to close! LEAVE YOUR FEEDBACK FOR HER……. THOUGHTS????

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Leave you at the alter……

Sunday, August 7th, 2011

While sitting at the table eating breakfast this morning with friends, one of the ladies at the table got to talking about weddings, marriage, and cold feet. Men get cold feet, women get cold feet but the majority of the time those feet are telling the truth! Women are creatures who love the fact of being married, but at the same time hate to be embarrassed by not having the wedding at all. I mean just imagine having all your friends and family members spend their money on getting to the event, hotel rooms, rental cars, outfits, etc but then he doesn’t show up!!!! Yea that’s embarrassing, but what if he shows up but everyone in the building know’s that one of you isn’t in love. Awkward!!! I know that this is going to spark a big debate and every woman is going to be one sided on this, but I have to ask this question! Would you rather be left at the alter or have someone marry you that is not in love with? Thoughts??

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Should I Marry Her?

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

While talking to a friend the other day we started discussing a couple that we both know who are about to jump the broom into maritial bliss. The problem that we have with them getting married is that the woman is trying to use the guy. He is a very loyal and nice guy who is struggling to make it in this world, but she is dragging him to the alter! She told him to buy her a ring that he couldn’t afford and then went back and upgraded it weeks later without his knowledge, and charged it to his account. She is banking on him getting a good job here in the next few months so that she will not have to work(She does temporary work now and is in her 40′s). She keeps telling him that she wants to start her own business, but hasn’t lifted a finger to do so. She has a college degree, but hasn’t had a meaningful job in years even before she met him. She has lived with whoever would take her in, but somehow she feels entitled to be taken care of? I would see if he could afford to “Take Care” of her financially, but making between $40-$60k isn’t going to take care of anyone in todays world let alone 2 grown adults. Problem is he doesn’t even have a job making that much now! But as I said earlier she is BANKING on him getting a job paying this much. I know that he doesn’t want to marry her, because even though she has a ring and a wedding that’s supposed to take place in less than 3 months “He hasn’t even told his mother yet!”. How do you handle a situation like this?. Thoughts?

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