Posts Tagged ‘commitment’

Women in Relationships Listen Up!!

Thursday, November 15th, 2012

Alright you already know what time of year it is…… It’s HOLIDAY SEASON!!!! With this time of year comes joy, parties, friends, family, love, gifts, and of course DRAMA!!!!! While most men in the world can get along and make it through the Holiday’s without missing a beat, the ladies of the world cannot say the same…. I know, I know if you are a woman you are saying awwww here he goes again beating up on the females, but please hear me out….. During the Holiday season couples go visit one another’s family & friends, attend parties, and travel TOGETHER…. Nothing wrong with this right??!!! Right, but WRONG!!!! Even though the women in a relationship(married, engaged, girlfriend, new friend) are happy and have someone to go to events with, the SINGLE, JEALOUS, ENVIOUS, EVIL friend will find a way to throw a damper on your Holiday joy…. They will complain that you have no time for them, say, “Why didn’t you invite me to that couples only event”, talk down on anything you discuss during this time, all because they are MISERABLE & SAD that they do not have anyone to spend their Holiday season with…. They are nearly as low down as the SIDE CHICK, but they are the SIDE CHICK in a close friends clothing!!!!! I know I beat down the SIDE CHICKS during the Holiday season, but I think this type of woman is more of a threat than the SIDE CHICK, because she is close to you personally and knows how to RAIN ON YOUR HAPPY PARADE!!! Women in a meaningful relationship during the holiday’s, keep these LONELY, BITTER, & SELF CENTERED chics away from you and your HOLIDAY HAPPINESS!!!! LONELY, BITTER, SELF CENTERED single ladies please keep the NONSENSE to yourself until January 2nd….. Hopefully you can find someone to occupy your time by VALENTINE’S DAY!!!!

Insecure Or The Other Word???

Tuesday, October 9th, 2012

I was talking to one of my friends and we were discussing the reputation some women get (Based on financial status) if they sleep around with guy after guy, never marry, have kids, or commit to a relationship. As we were debating back and forth I told him that, “If a woman isn’t in a committed relationship regardless of how much money she makes, then why can’t she sleep with whoever she want, whenever she want?” His response, “Dude she can’t because she’s a woman, and we hold women to a higher standard than we hold ourselves.” I laughed at him and said, “What if she’s just insecure and is looking for love through sex, foreplay, or intimacy with a man.” He cut me off and said the following:

“Bobby you are playing CAPTAIN* with that insecure s%$#, IF SHE’S RICH THEN SHE’S INSECURE, BUT IF SHE’S BROKE SHE’S A WHORE!”

I dropped the phone laughing because I have never heard this phrase before, but apparently some believe there are different terms for women who are on different financial levels but sleep around. THOUGHTS????

*CAPTAIN = He’s insinuating that I’m trying to save women by saying some women maybe insecure for sleeping around.

Can Men And Women Truly Be Friends?

Friday, May 4th, 2012

I was talking to one of my friends this morning on my drive in, and we were having a discussion about whether men and women could only be “FRIENDS.” We are both married, and agree that only a small percentage of opposite sex friends have HONESTLY never crossed the line. We aren’t talking about the male “FRIEND” that you slept with in college, and now all of a sudden it never happened since you were at school in Chicago and now you reside in Orlando where no one knew of the relationship. And guys we definitely aren’t talking about the “FRIEND” who helped you through your break-up!

But what we do disagree on is this: Is it alright for a married person to become “FRIENDS” with someone of the opposite sex AFTER they are married? THOUGHTS?????

I’m Involved With Two Men And I’m Confused!!!

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

So I receive another EXTREMELY interesting email from a female the other day, who is having a problem choosing between 2 men that she is currently dating. One has 90% of the qualities she is looking for and the other has only 80%. To me this sounds like a good problem to have until I press further for what the lacking 10%/20% actually consisted of!!!

FEMALE: Ok Bobby here is one for you, I can’t post it on my page but if you think the people will respond you can, but names have to be disclosed. It’s me.

MAN #1 – I am in love with someone that loves me but he is in a different kind of situation.

MAN #2 – Then there’s someone who loves me and worships the ground I walk on but I don’t love him. He buys me things, he is concerned for me and has 80% of what matters the most to a woman. The problem is that I’m independent, make my own money, and do for myself.

I was married to one man half of my life and now I feel like I can choose what I want before making a choice.

MAN #1 – The one that I love has 90% and I can deal with the lacking 10%, but the situation is sticky. Even though he has 12 of the things that I want in a man on my list of 14 things! LOL.

MAN #2 – The other 20% that he doesn’t have is a big deal to me!

BOBBY: Oh damn…. LOL…. OK you have to give me a little more…. What are the 80%/90% traits that you like? What is the 10%/20% that they are lacking?? You are hiding something! LOL.

FEMALE:
MALE #1 – Is lacking that he is in a sticky situation and we are both passionately in love to where we feel it in our gut.
MALE #2 – He is short, a mama’s boy, cooks, runs my bath water, lights candles, plays soft music for me and he has been alone too long! I think him doing all of this bothers me as I want to do some of the cooking, run my own water and take baths alone sometimes.

BOBBY: Let me guess, MALE #1 is an animal in the bed?

FEMALE: As far as sex…… WELL….. MALE #2 can but….. BUT MALE #1!!!! “OH MY GOD!!!”……….. Bobby it’s so much more exciting, when PASSION/TUSSLING ARE INVOLVED AND MANLINESS IS THERE AS WELL!!!…. LOL………. SOOOOOO……. What do you suggest???

BOBBY: MALE #1 is married isn’t he?

FEMALE: Bobby??????????????????????? I gave you most of the meat why, why, why???

BOBBY: I need the meat and the potatoes!!!!

FEMALE: Ok yes MALE #1 is married, but 10 years of lies and he is miserable. But luckily in a month he will be facing an empty nest with the children and that’s why he stayed, because of the children. I know it’s wrong Bobby but I love him, again I know it’s wrong. MALE #2 isn’t married but he has been twice and I just don’t love him, even in all he does, it’s just not there.

Something tells me to walk away from MALE #1, and I have tried (Not answer the phone, Changed my phone #, Moved). Something tells me that I know love different from lust or infatuation when you’re older and the ingredients say love. I know it’s wrong for a woman to love another woman’s husband, and the word says “What God put together let no man tear asunder.” Did they tear it apart? I don’t want to feel like “I did” for the rest of my life.
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So what do you think my friend should do??? SUGGESTIONS??? THOUGHTS????

Accept Who You Choose!!!!

Sunday, March 4th, 2012

When I woke up this morning, and checked to see what was going on in the social media world, one of my online friends had posted the following: “Boys choose video vixens, Men choose Michelle Obama’s.” – Anh Vu”

As boys growing up we always want the “Eye Candy” and select the women we pursue based on her body, look, and whether everyone stops to stare when we walk in with her. I know this sounds ridiculous, and I must agree that now looking back as a grown man I was once a BOY. Once I grew up and realized that “THE LOOKERS” were for the most part “Just That”, I could sleep better at night knowing that I could enjoy brains over looks.

The “Michelle Obama” types of the world will normally get overlooked until the boys turn to men and realize that those video vixens/lookers/dyme pieces are not the long term solution when you are looking for a serious relationship! I’m sure the boys who never paid Michelle any attention and instead went after the video vixens/lookers/dyme pieces are kicking themselves in envy right about now.

Fellas find your “Michelle Obama” and pass on the video vixens/lookers/dyme piece, because you will definitely be happier in the future!!! THOUGHTS?????