While talking to a friend the other day we started discussing a couple that we both know who are about to jump the broom into maritial bliss. The problem that we have with them getting married is that the woman is trying to use the guy. He is a very loyal and nice guy who is struggling to make it in this world, but she is dragging him to the alter! She told him to buy her a ring that he couldn’t afford and then went back and upgraded it weeks later without his knowledge, and charged it to his account. She is banking on him getting a good job here in the next few months so that she will not have to work(She does temporary work now and is in her 40′s). She keeps telling him that she wants to start her own business, but hasn’t lifted a finger to do so. She has a college degree, but hasn’t had a meaningful job in years even before she met him. She has lived with whoever would take her in, but somehow she feels entitled to be taken care of? I would see if he could afford to “Take Care” of her financially, but making between $40-$60k isn’t going to take care of anyone in todays world let alone 2 grown adults. Problem is he doesn’t even have a job making that much now! But as I said earlier she is BANKING on him getting a job paying this much. I know that he doesn’t want to marry her, because even though she has a ring and a wedding that’s supposed to take place in less than 3 months “He hasn’t even told his mother yet!”. How do you handle a situation like this?. Thoughts?