Bobby M. Rouse has a background that’s as diverse as his personality. We often hear about the challenges faced by Black women when looking for Mr. Right. Bobby Rouse put Black women across America on alert when he proclaimed in Essence magazine that he finds it difficult to find his Mrs. Right even while living in a city with a plethora of educated, successful and got it together sisters that is Atlanta. For more information on Bobby, I was talking to one of my friends and we were discussing the reputation some women get (Based on financial status) if they sleep around with guy after guy, never marry, have kids, or commit to a relationship. As we were debating back and forth I told him that, “If a woman isn’t in a committed relationship regardless of how much money she makes, then why can’t she sleep with whoever she want, whenever she want?” His response, “Dude she can’t because she’s a woman, and we hold women to a higher standard than we hold ourselves.” I laughed at him and said, “What if she’s just insecure and is looking for love through sex, foreplay, or intimacy with a man.” He cut me off and said the following:
“Bobby you are playing CAPTAIN* with that insecure s%$#, IF SHE’S RICH THEN SHE’S INSECURE, BUT IF SHE’S BROKE SHE’S A WHORE!”
I dropped the phone laughing because I have never heard this phrase before, but apparently some believe there are different terms for women who are on different financial levels but sleep around. THOUGHTS????
*CAPTAIN = He’s insinuating that I’m trying to save women by saying some women maybe insecure for sleeping around.
