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I’m Involved With Two Men And I’m Confused!!!

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

So I receive another EXTREMELY interesting email from a female the other day, who is having a problem choosing between 2 men that she is currently dating. One has 90% of the qualities she is looking for and the other has only 80%. To me this sounds like a good problem to have until I press further for what the lacking 10%/20% actually consisted of!!!

FEMALE: Ok Bobby here is one for you, I can’t post it on my page but if you think the people will respond you can, but names have to be disclosed. It’s me.

MAN #1 – I am in love with someone that loves me but he is in a different kind of situation.

MAN #2 – Then there’s someone who loves me and worships the ground I walk on but I don’t love him. He buys me things, he is concerned for me and has 80% of what matters the most to a woman. The problem is that I’m independent, make my own money, and do for myself.

I was married to one man half of my life and now I feel like I can choose what I want before making a choice.

MAN #1 – The one that I love has 90% and I can deal with the lacking 10%, but the situation is sticky. Even though he has 12 of the things that I want in a man on my list of 14 things! LOL.

MAN #2 – The other 20% that he doesn’t have is a big deal to me!

BOBBY: Oh damn…. LOL…. OK you have to give me a little more…. What are the 80%/90% traits that you like? What is the 10%/20% that they are lacking?? You are hiding something! LOL.

FEMALE:
MALE #1 – Is lacking that he is in a sticky situation and we are both passionately in love to where we feel it in our gut.
MALE #2 – He is short, a mama’s boy, cooks, runs my bath water, lights candles, plays soft music for me and he has been alone too long! I think him doing all of this bothers me as I want to do some of the cooking, run my own water and take baths alone sometimes.

BOBBY: Let me guess, MALE #1 is an animal in the bed?

FEMALE: As far as sex…… WELL….. MALE #2 can but….. BUT MALE #1!!!! “OH MY GOD!!!”……….. Bobby it’s so much more exciting, when PASSION/TUSSLING ARE INVOLVED AND MANLINESS IS THERE AS WELL!!!…. LOL………. SOOOOOO……. What do you suggest???

BOBBY: MALE #1 is married isn’t he?

FEMALE: Bobby??????????????????????? I gave you most of the meat why, why, why???

BOBBY: I need the meat and the potatoes!!!!

FEMALE: Ok yes MALE #1 is married, but 10 years of lies and he is miserable. But luckily in a month he will be facing an empty nest with the children and that’s why he stayed, because of the children. I know it’s wrong Bobby but I love him, again I know it’s wrong. MALE #2 isn’t married but he has been twice and I just don’t love him, even in all he does, it’s just not there.

Something tells me to walk away from MALE #1, and I have tried (Not answer the phone, Changed my phone #, Moved). Something tells me that I know love different from lust or infatuation when you’re older and the ingredients say love. I know it’s wrong for a woman to love another woman’s husband, and the word says “What God put together let no man tear asunder.” Did they tear it apart? I don’t want to feel like “I did” for the rest of my life.
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So what do you think my friend should do??? SUGGESTIONS??? THOUGHTS????

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She Accused Him Of Cheating, Now What?

Sunday, April 15th, 2012

I received a message in my FB inbox the other day from a female who I have known for some years. She is in a relationship with a guy that she is looking to “Jump the Broom” with, but they have all of a sudden, “Hit a Bump”. Follow our conversation below:

Female:
You and your wife seem to have a beautiful relationship, and we are both about the same age. I am thinking about getting married, however, we have hit a little bump. How do you keep your relationship healthy? This will be the second go round for me.

Bobby:
What’s the bump?

Female:
I kept accusing him of cheating, but he says he’s not and that he never will. However I accused him of it again last week and now he refuses to talk to me. He’s saying that he needs space to step back and clear his head before he says something that will damage our relationship

Bobby:
Oh Oh…. Honestly, I’m not sure if you can repair trust…. That’s a looonnngggg process…. Especially when you have no proof that he’s cheating….

Female:
I have no proof at all, so it’s best if I gave space. I’m getting older! I want to be and appear happy as you and your beautiful wife.

Bobby:
Wow girl that’s going to be tough though….. Not sure if you understand but that type of stuff really HURTS…. If he wasn’t cheating, he probably is or will start now…. Sorry to share that news with you….. How old are you now?

Female:
I’m 38 and he is 35. I hope he’s not cheating after 2 weeks.

Bobby:
Oh damn yall are almost the same age as us….. Ummmm girl you are in Atlanta and those woman can sense that he is hurting and see this is as a prime opportunity to “you know” MAKE HIM RELAX AND FEEEELLLL GOOOD!!! And trust that’s how it starts…. If you get him back, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT accuse him unless you walk in on him doing a chick!!!!

Female:
I will take that advice….

Now, maybe I was little hard on her but the truth is when you start accusing people of cheating without proof, you are opening up a can of worms that you may not be able to close! LEAVE YOUR FEEDBACK FOR HER……. THOUGHTS????

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Men Hold The Key

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

I know as soon as you read the title of this post, you automatically think that I’m on some male chauvinist stuff today. Actually I’m not, it’s just a little truth serum for the women of the world who think they are the key holders to whom and when they marry. You hear it all the time from the ladies, “The man “I” marry will be required to have this, and that!” All the while, they aren’t thinking that they won’t get anything if the MAN they require this and that from, doesn’t go to his local jeweler, put a few dollars down, and drop down to a knee and ask those FOUR LOVELY WORDS “Will You Marry Me?” I mean women can claim they hold the key because of the new age independence, more aggression in dating, and successes in the business world but at no time will a woman be able to start the journey towards marriage. Of course some will argue that if the woman doesn’t say yes then she is in control, but how many actually say no? It’s every woman’s dream to get married, even if they know the situation isn’t right, but even when they say no, how long will it be before another man asks her to marry him? Women can petition laws, demand higher positions in Corporate America, etc., but this my friend is something that women will never be able to take from the MEN. We hold the key to MARRIAGE bottom line #caseclosed. Thoughts?

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Leave you at the alter……

Sunday, August 7th, 2011

While sitting at the table eating breakfast this morning with friends, one of the ladies at the table got to talking about weddings, marriage, and cold feet. Men get cold feet, women get cold feet but the majority of the time those feet are telling the truth! Women are creatures who love the fact of being married, but at the same time hate to be embarrassed by not having the wedding at all. I mean just imagine having all your friends and family members spend their money on getting to the event, hotel rooms, rental cars, outfits, etc but then he doesn’t show up!!!! Yea that’s embarrassing, but what if he shows up but everyone in the building know’s that one of you isn’t in love. Awkward!!! I know that this is going to spark a big debate and every woman is going to be one sided on this, but I have to ask this question! Would you rather be left at the alter or have someone marry you that is not in love with? Thoughts??

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Should I Marry Her?

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

While talking to a friend the other day we started discussing a couple that we both know who are about to jump the broom into maritial bliss. The problem that we have with them getting married is that the woman is trying to use the guy. He is a very loyal and nice guy who is struggling to make it in this world, but she is dragging him to the alter! She told him to buy her a ring that he couldn’t afford and then went back and upgraded it weeks later without his knowledge, and charged it to his account. She is banking on him getting a good job here in the next few months so that she will not have to work(She does temporary work now and is in her 40′s). She keeps telling him that she wants to start her own business, but hasn’t lifted a finger to do so. She has a college degree, but hasn’t had a meaningful job in years even before she met him. She has lived with whoever would take her in, but somehow she feels entitled to be taken care of? I would see if he could afford to “Take Care” of her financially, but making between $40-$60k isn’t going to take care of anyone in todays world let alone 2 grown adults. Problem is he doesn’t even have a job making that much now! But as I said earlier she is BANKING on him getting a job paying this much. I know that he doesn’t want to marry her, because even though she has a ring and a wedding that’s supposed to take place in less than 3 months “He hasn’t even told his mother yet!”. How do you handle a situation like this?. Thoughts?

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